When my son started school I became aware of a "boy" phenomenon. When you ask a boy a question he responds, well, if he responds, it is usually with no more than one word. If you want to know how their day was - you have to ask a very specific, well thought out question. So I started a dinner time game called "Good and Bad". We go around the table and everyone gets a turn to tell one good thing in their day and one bad thing. There was no avoiding that question!
The great thing about Good and Bad is that it has endured and served it's very specific and useful purpose. I found out things that were going on in my children's lives and we would all talk together and try to work things out. My kids love playing Good and Bad it was one of the things I would never do differently.
Tonight we had 8 of us for dinner - we played Good and Bad. My good - that there were 8 of us for dinner; my Bad - that it's not like this more often. I felt so happy that they were all here and wanting to play the game. It was different to have so many here for dinner in the middle of the week - but so wonderful.
I am glad that I made the effort to cook for everyone and to enjoy this meal with my children and their friends. It is important to make these efforts to feel connected to everyone. When I reflect on my day there are quite a few things that I want to list among my "Good". I like to reflect on this list while I'm settling in to go to sleep. I count them down actually - I try to find no less than five each day. When I think of them, I try to relive the moments. I find this helps me relax and makes me smile right before I go to sleep. Not bad. Good.
reading this was good
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